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Some tips from Super Brain by Deepak Chopra M.D. and Rudolph E. Tanzi Ph.D.

In a normal healthy brain, you a person can reach peak performance. Deepak suggests we look at the area of ‘adaptability’ and look at one of the heroes of the superbrain in this area: Alberta Einstein.

Deepak further mentions that Einstein developed three strengths and avoided three obstacles”

Three strengths: Letting go, being flexible, hanging loose and Three obstacles: Habits, conditioning, ‘stuckness’.

Here is how the book recommends people could use their brains:

HOW TO BE ADAPTABLE

  • Stop repeating what never worked in the first place {I say, good advice for education}
  • Stand back and ask for a new solution. {Einstein’s way}
  • Stop struggling at the level of the problem – the answer never lies there.
  • Work on your own stuckness. Don’t worry about the other person.
  • When the old stresses are triggered, walk away.  (I say, good advice for caregivers}
  • See righteous anger for what it really is – destructive anger dressed up to sound positive.
  • Rebuild the bonds that have become frayed. {I say, good advice for family, friends and neighbors.}
  • Take on more of the burden than you think you deserve. {We have hear before that successful people take that extra step or go the extra mile.}
  • Stop attaching so much weight to being right. In the grand scheme of things, being right is insignificant compared with being happy. {I say, excellent habit for Alzheimers’ caregivers.

It is important to remember that emotions and reason are interconnected; emotions, habits, beliefs and memories have an impact on reasoning and decision making. Being adaptable requires you to be aware of this interconnectedness.

 

 

 

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Learning the Weight Solution Dr. Phil’s way.

Sunday, June 30, 2013

I have made the decision to step up and do what it takes to have what I want.  My first goal in the next two months is to focus on my health and then focus on my finances.

I will continue to translate knowledge, awareness, and insight into action.

After perusing Part One (Unlocking the Doors to Permanent Weight Loss) of a book my brother gave me written by Dr. Phil I decided on using my summer break on a specific goal. I have been retired 3 years but find I am still on a school calendar. I like the school calendar because I like change, learning and taking new directions.

I will read Dr. Phil’s book Getting Real About You and Your Weight and learn the 7 keys to Weight Loss Freedom.  This is what I have noted in my journal after reading Chapter One of Part One.

I liked Dr. Phil’s premise about weight.  I am putting what I learned into my words using some of his words of course. My real goal weight (my get real goal weight) is a weight that is healthy and realistic for my age and for my physical and genetic makeup, a weight at which I am happy and truly at peace with my size, and a weight that is stable because I have taken control of every factor in my life that keeps it there. It is the weight at which I look good, feel good, and lovingly accept myself from the inside out.

I will read Dr. Phil’s book Getting Real About You and Your Weight and learn the 7 keys to Weight Loss Freedom:

#1 Right Thinking – I will get right with myself on the inside.

#2 Healing Feelings – I will gain Emotional Control and learn how to break the cycle of overeating in response to emotions and stress.

#3 A No-Fail Environment – I have the ability to shape, design, and manage my environment so that is virtually impossible for me to fail at weight control. I will make my life look different, feel different and be different which means I will gain positive momentum. I will begin to feel better, more energized, and more focused mentally.

#4 Mastery Over Food and Impulse Eating – I am learning how to control and reshape my behavior by identifying why I persist in bad habits such as overeating, bingeing and medicating myself with food, and then replacing those bad habits with actions that produce more positive healthy results.

#5 High-Response Cost, High Yield Nutrition – I will control my food intake and eat the right foods in the right amounts.

#6 Intentional Exercise – I will find a balanced approach of simple strength-building and heart-conditioning exercises that will become a permanent fixture in my life; I will have control of my body.

#7 My Circle of Support – I need to assemble a circle of people who will encourage me and provide the accountability I need to achieve my goals.

I have made small, deliberate modifications in the way I live my life and I am developing a lifestyle that creates healthier behavior. I am however still overweight and am not yet moving to a normal, stable and healthy weight. I am hoping that this book will help me.  I see that I need the right programming. This book does look helpful and promising so I will continue to read it.

 

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Successful People VS Unsuccessful People – I found this information on internet and on pinterest.

SUCCESFUL PEOPLE

UNSUCCESFUL PEOPLE

Have sense of gratitude Have a sense   of entitlement
Compliment Criticize
Forgive others Hold a grudge
Accept responsibility for their failures Blame others for their   failures
Give other people credit for their victories Take all the   credit of their victories
Read everyday Watch TV everyday
Talk about ideas Talk about   people
Share information and data Horde information and data
Embrace change Fear change
Keep a to-do/project list Fly by the seat of their pants
Keep a journal Say they have   a journal but really don’t
Keep a “to-be” list Don’t know what they want to   be
Set goals and develop their plans Never set   goals
Continuously learn Think they know it all
Operate from a transformational perspective Operate from   a transactional perspective
Help others succeed Secretly hope others fail
Exude contentment Exude anger
Take the first step   to mend a broken relationship Wait for someone else to mend   the relationship
Seek the opinions   of those who think differently Belittle   those who think differently
Surround themselves with different people Surround themselves with   like-mindedness
Evolve Stay stuck   where they are
Get help Go it all alone
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Boxing Day, avoid the line ups

Its is -21′C today. Avoid the Boxing Day line ups and look on line from home instead.

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2013 was made for you

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Books that you might like to read.

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Stress-Fighting Strategies from Dr. Phil McGraw in his book Real Life

Stress-fighting strategies

I have tried all of these suggested strategies and they work. The problem I think is that we do not make it a part of our routine and it should be. We get so caught up in life that we forget to take care of ourselves. It should be part of our maintenance plan; it’s our free insurance for a healthy life.

• Forgive yourself -Every mistake is a learning experience. Learn from it and move on.
• Conscientiously manage your reactions. -Don’t make an inconvenience a catastrophe, watch your words.
• Exercise regularly -Get those feel good hormones (endorphins)into your bloodstream
• Practice relaxation techniques such as visualization and progressive muscle relaxation.
• Breathe deeply at least once a day.
• Repeat a powerful affirmation to yourself several times daily. -I can… I am…
• Get high-quality sleep
• Acknowledge and celebrate a goal you’ve accomplished at least once a week.
• Laugh at least once a day.
• Take a hot bath
• Recognize what you can control and what you can’t

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My new real life with Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s disease has entered my life. First it was an aunt, then it was my mother and now it is in my household daily because it is my husband. Slowly I began to realize that the vision of my life, the vision our family had of our life, is changed. I am uncertain of what lies ahead. Gradually I am realizing that I am losing something that I can’t get back, my partner in decision making and my emotional support. The challenge is now accepting the truth into my reality and learning to live with more gradual losses; the challenge is to focus on things that remain in my life in the present.

I am reading various authors such as Dr. Phil McGraw, Iyanla Vanzant who write about life. I am transferring this knowledge and adapting it to my situation. From the author for Real Life, Dr. Phil McGraw I am learning not to mislabel or misjudge myself or others. Alzheimer’s is a loss, a loss for the patient and a loss for the family. Here is some of what I learned.
-You may have symptoms of depression such as change of appetite, trouble concentrating, sleep problems, loss of interest in things you use to love, fatigue or low energy, and irritability. Find a support group. I found a memory group on line and I have contacted my local Alzheimer society. If these symptoms persist to a point where you experience functional impairment then you need to seek professional help.
-You may experience continued or bouts of feelings of anger, sadness, desperation, and other emotions. That is normal. Everyone’s timetable is different. You are entitled to hurt and cry, to take the time you need, and to discharge your pent-up emotions. This I am doing with a memory group because I am not ready to do it yet with my family.
- Your grief and pain will be part of your life. You need to stand up for you and the rest of your life and make the conscious choice to put one foot in front of the other and move on with your life. You must continue to embrace people and the other parts of your life. When I began to admit to others that my husband had Alzheimer’s I could see that many people were not comfortable and were more distant. I admitted to myself that we had done the same thing in the past and it was because of ignorance and lack of knowledge. I knew that we had to create a new community for ourselves, a different community.
-This disease is not personal. It is not a punishment from God or the Devil. It can happen to anyone despite their race, religion and education and it happens all over the world and at various ages.
-This is a beginning. Once I began to accept what was my life and perceptions changed. Once you accept that you are responsible for your choices and your thoughts you can begin to realize that you can create a good life, a different one and at the same time a good one. For example, I set up circumstances to create moments of joy; it was as simple as putting on a favorite song and dancing together in the living room. I could create more involved moments of joy such as a special trip that we had talked about but never did.

To help me I have for now accepted Alzheimer’s as a separate part of my husband but not him; Alz is his alter ago. On bad days I know it is not him it is Alz. I am in the process of creating, daily, a new vision of my life. Yes I am uncertain of what lies ahead but I know even more now that today, the present, this moment is what is important. It is no longer thinking that I lost someone but that he is my partner and I have taken over some of his jobs such as decision making. We are still caregivers but it looks different. I know as the disease progresses that experience and vision will change and I expect that.

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EVERY DAY. I learn to love again.

This is what I learned from the book “One Day My Soul Just Opened Up” by Iyanla Vanzant: 40 days and 40 nights toward spiritual strength and personal growth.

TELL THE TRUTH
-I will tell myself the truth about what I am feeling.
-I will tell myself the truth about what I am thinking.
-I will myself the truth about what I am doing and why I am doing it.
BE OBEDIENT
-I will be obedient to my mind when it speaks to me.
-I will listen to my thoughts because they are the higher calling.
-I will ask myself: Will it bring me joy without harming myself or anyone else?
-I will ask myself: Will it bring some good to me or the rest of the world?
-I will ask myself: Will it move me beyond some fear I know hold about doing it.
-I will simply say, “I am willing”. I am obedient.
DISCIPLINE YOUR MIND, YOUR BODY, YOUR BEING!
-I will do what I said I would do when I said I would do it.
-I will be disciplined in thought, word, and deed.
-I will train myself to do things that are good for me.
-Breathe. Walk. Eat. Rest. Work. Play. Listen. Create. Pray. Meditate.
-I will be disciplined to my quest for peace, joy, harmony, balance, and expansion.
PUT YOUR LIFE IN ORDER
-Order! Order! Order!
-In my quest for spiritual strength I must order my mind, my body, and all of my affairs.
-I will clean out and reorder everything in my environment
-I will ask myself: Is there order? Is there a place for everything? Is everything in its place?
-I will let go of things that serve no purpose.
-I will fix or discard broken things. I will let go of things from the past. I will order my day.
MAKE ANOTHER CHOICE
-If it is not working for me, I will make another choice.
-I will recognize the conflict, chaos, or pain my choice created; I will eliminate it by making another choice.
WASH YOUR HANDS WHEN YOU ARE DONE!
-I will remember: elimination is a spiritual as well as human experience.
-When I have eliminated, released something or someone from my life, I will wash my hands and move on!
-I will know what I need to know when I need to know it.
-It’s over! It’s finished! Let go! Eliminate! Now I wash my hands and move on.
KNOW THAT YOU KNOW
-When I do what is right for me, I know that I know it is right for me.
-When I want more than I have now and am willing to do what it takes to get it, I know that what I want is right for me.
-I know that I am connected to the awesome, powerful, creative source of life. What God knows, I know.
-If I cannot figure it out, then I will ask for clarity. I have faith.
FEAR NOT
-I cannot lose. If is has been divinely ordained for me , it will come back when I am ready to receive it.
-Fear not. Help is on the way.
-I trust God. God loves me. I can’t lose..
DO ALLTHINGS IN LOVE
-I am, we all are, love in motion, seeking to reveal itself in many ways under all circumstances.
-I love you. I wish I had more …[love]. I will do it in love and with love.
-I will insert love into every statement of discord or disharmony, every intention, every goal.
-Everything I do, I will do with the intent of demonstrating more love.

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Every day. I will learn to love again.

This is what I learned from: One Day My Soul Just Opened Up by Iyanla Vanzant. 40 days and 40 nights toward spiritual strength and personal growth.
Every day.
TELL THE TRUTH
-I will tell myself the truth about what I am feeling.
-I will tell myself the truth about what I am thinking.
-I will myself the truth about what I am doing and why I am doing it.
BE OBEDIENT
-I will be obedient to my mind when it speaks to me.
-I will listen to my thoughts because they are the higher calling.
-I will ask myself: Will it bring me joy without harming myself or anyone else?
-I will ask myself: Will it bring some good to me or the rest of the world?
-I will ask myself: Will it move me beyond some fear I know hold about doing it.
-I will simply say, “I am willing”. I am obedient.
DISCIPLINE YOUR MIND, YOUR BODY, YOUR BEING!
-I will do what I said I would do when I said I would do it.
-I will be disciplined in thought, word, and deed.
-I will train myself to do things that are good for me.
-Breathe. Walk. Eat. Rest. Work. Play. Listen. Create. Pray. Meditate.
-I will be disciplined to my quest for peace, joy, harmony, balance, and expansion.
PUT YOUR LIFE IN ORDER
-Order! Order! Order!
-In my quest for spiritual strength I must order my mind, my body, and all of my affairs.
-I will clean out and reorder everything in my environment
-I will ask myself: Is there order? Is there a place for everything? Is everything in its place?
-I will let go of things that serve no purpose.
-I will fix or discard broken things. I will let go of things from the past. I will order my day.
MAKE ANOTHER CHOICE
-If it is not working for me, I will make another choice.
-I will recognize the conflict, chaos, or pain my choice created; I will eliminate it by making another choice.
WASH YOUR HANDS WHEN YOU ARE DONE!
-I will remember: elimination is a spiritual as well as human experience.
-When I have eliminated, released something or someone from my life, I will wash my hands and move on!
-I will know what I need to know when I need to know it.
-It’s over! It’s finished! Let go! Eliminate! Now I wash my hands and move on.
KNOW THAT YOU KNOW
-When I do what is right for me, I know that I know it is right for me.
-When I want more than I have now and am willing to do what it takes to get it, I know that what I want is right for me.
-I know that I am connected to the awesome, powerful, creative source of life. What God knows, I know.
-If I cannot figure it out, then I will ask for clarity. I have faith.
FEAR NOT
-I cannot lose. If is has been divinely ordained for me , it will come back when I am ready to receive it.
-Fear not. Help is on the way.
-I trust God. God loves me. I can’t lose..
DO ALLTHINGS IN LOVE
-I am, we all are, love in motion, seeking to reveal itself in many ways under all circumstances.
-I love you. I wish I had more love. I will do it in love and with love.
-I will insert love into every statement of discord or disharmony, every intention, every goal.
-Everything I do, I will do with the intent of demonstrating more love.

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